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Do you let your emotions get the best of you frequently? Do you tend to get frustrated easily and let this effect how you treat others? Do you often find yourself getting angry and snapping at people? Does your anger boil over into conflict with those around you? If you want to have self-mastery over your life you CANNOT let your emotions get the best of you.
You must learn how to establish a principle that your emotions do not give you the right to your actions. Just because you feel something doesn’t legitimize you acting on that feeling. Most people who fail in their relationships struggle in this area. If you’re angry, it’s ok to be angry, but don’t act on that emotion. If you’re frustrated with another person, it’s ok be frustrated with them, but don’t act on that emotion.
We live in a world where people think they need to “be real” by being honest and saying whatever is on their mind. They think that’s that the only way to be themselves. This couldn’t be anywhere further from the truth. Just because you feel something that is an honest emotion, it doesn’t give you the right to act on it. This will always make you a slave to your emotions.
When you always act on your emotions, you do not have self-mastery. But when you can experience certain emotions fully, and not let them control your behavior, that’s when you have self-mastery. That’s when you become the best version of yourself. That’s when you build and sustain dynamic relationships. That’s when you get the most out of life.
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Whatever you’re going through right now, this too shall pass. If you’re struggling in a relationship, whether it’s personal or professional, this too shall pass. If you’re going through a difficult time in your finances, this too shall pass. If you’re battling something in your health, this too shall pass. If you’re struggling with a bad habit or addiction, this too shall pass. If you’re experiencing anxiety or depression, this too shall pass.
Time is always our ally. If you feel bad right now, this too shall pass. If you’re frustrated and angry with someone today, this too shall pass. If you’re tired and want to give up and quit in this moment, this too shall pass. We always have to be cognizant of this as we go through the ups and downs of life. Nothing is permanent. Every minute that passes by is another opportunity to turn things around.
This also applies to the great moments and successes along the way. If you’re feeling on top of the world, this too shall pass. If you feel great and you’re having tremendous success in your job or career, this too shall pass. If you feel like you know all the answers, this too shall pass. If there are no challenges or problems in all your relationships, this too shall pass. So no matter what’s happening today just wait things out. Whatever is happening in your life right now, this too shall pass.
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What are the questions you ask yourself every single day? What do you focus on? Are you fixated on what you don’t have? Or what problem is in front of you right now? Or why you have to struggle with a particular obstacle or adversity? If you want to change in ANY area of your life, you MUST change the quality of the questions you ask yourself.
When you first wake up tomorrow start your day with this one question, “What would happen if?” What would happen if you tried something new? What would happen if you took action to turn the situation around? What would happen if you put in the work to develop and grow? What would happen if you viewed that situation differently? What would happen if nothing could stop you from reaching your destiny?
When you ask yourself, “what would happen if?” you open the door to new opportunities. Most people fail because they don’t focus on what’s possible and never take the action necessary to transform their lives. If you ask yourself, “How I can turn things around?” “What can I do to make things work?” You start to get new answers. The universal principle, “ask and you shall receive,” applies to anything your brain focuses on.
If you ask yourself, “why is my life so horrible?” “Why can’t I ever succeed?” Your brain will search for those answers. But at the same time, if you ask yourself, “how can I turn this around?” “How can I make my life better?” “How can I contribute to something greater than myself?” Your brain will search for those answers too. So if you want to change your life, change the quality of the questions you ask yourself each day.
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Do you have certain expectations of others that aren’t based in reality? Do you think people owe you something because of an event that happened in the past? Are you waiting for someone to reciprocate based on what you’ve done for them? Do you struggle to understand why people don’t treat you the way you think you deserve to be treated?
Expecting people to do what you would do in a situation only leads to your disappointment. Most people are just concerned with themselves. This is not always a bad thing, but it can become that if you go out of your way for others and think they owe you something in return.
Learn to let people be who they are and accept them for what it’s worth. If you find someone that is self-centered have the wisdom and discernment to understand how you should interact with them. You can’t blame someone for only being concerned with what they can get out of a situation. Just make sure you’re cognizant of what you’re getting yourself into when you’re working with them. This will save you many endless frustrations down the road.
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Do you want to know how to take control of your life? Do you want to know how to possess strong mental stamina, fortitude, and tenacity? Do you want to know how to continuously develop and grow? Then practice these six things that mentally strong people do:
1. Know How to Move On: Don’t waste time feeling sorry for yourself for things that are out of your control. Learn the lesson and then it’s on to the next thing.
2. Know How to Embrace Change: Things are constantly evolving. You need to have the mindset to take on change when it presents itself. Don’t get fixated on what happened in the past.
3. Know How to Stay Positive: Obstacles and adversity surface in all our lives. Remembering to be grateful for the things you DO have helps prevent you from focusing on what you don’t.
4. Know How to Take Calculated Risks: If you want to grow in any area of life you must know when to take on risks. You must be able to push yourself outside of your comfort zone and step into the unknown.
5. Know How to Look for Opportunities to Grow: Seek out mentors and coaches. Seek out those that can help you get to the next level. Luck occurs when preparation meets opportunity. Don’t miss out on what’s possible because you weren’t willing to put in the work.
6. Know How to Invest Time in Your Future: You must set a vision for your life and consistently look for ways to move in that direction. Vision leads to goal setting. Goal setting leads to discipline and dedication. These two things strengthen your character over time.
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Embracing individual differences is the third skill of relational intelligence. This is the ability to be AUTHENTIC in acknowledging and accepting that everyone comes from different backgrounds and experiences. Relationally intelligent leaders who practice this skill are comfortable in their own skins. They’ve put in the work personally to define what authenticity means for them and then model it for their people and teams.
When you model authenticity to others you create the conditions of psychological safety where people can bring their true selves to work. This goes beyond traditional notions of diversity and inclusion. It makes everyone on your team feel a sense of belonging that sparks diversity of thought, which leads to creativity and innovation.
If you practice embracing individual differences you’ll be able to judge people for how good their good ideas are and not how bad their bad ones are. This is one of the most important factors when you’re partnering and collaborating on work with others. You have to be able to create an environment of belonging where people can iterate on different ideas to get to the best desired outcomes.
Your people must feel free to express their unique ideas and perspectives. They can only do this if there is psychological safety on your team. So proactive embracing individual differences. You’ll see great ideas start to form on all of your team’s work efforts.
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Do you have people in your life that you look up to? People who have invested in you. People who have helped you along the journey. People who have been committed to seeing you reach your full potential. People who want the best for you and nothing in return. People who celebrate your victories and successes.
If you find a great mentor, coach, or manager, remember to thank them for the time they have spent to help you grow. These are the marks of a relationally intelligent leader who cultivates influence. We define this as the ability to have a positive and meaningful IMPACT on the lives of others. These types of people operate with a servant leadership mentality. They see potential in others and make intentional efforts to help them bring it out.
Never take for granted the people who choose you. These types of people are rare to find these days. Many leaders tend to be transactional when it comes to relationships. Relationally intelligent leaders don’t operate in that way. They are strategic about people and talent just as much as their are committed to organizational goals or performance objectives. So choose the people that choose you. They’ll be the ones to support you through all the triumphs and trials you face along the way.
Relational Intelligence: The Five Essential Skills You Need to Build Life-Changing Relationships is available everywhere books are sold.
Learn more about identifying, unlocking, and unleashing your authentic self at bandelliandassociates.com.
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You can do whatever you put your mind to. It doesn’t matter what other people think you can do. It doesn’t matter what other people say you can do. It doesn’t matter what other people believe you can do. The goals and dreams you have for your life are completely up to you.
Don’t let others project onto you their own doubts or fears. Who are they to say what is in your future? Who are they to say your dreams can’t become a reality? Some people may not intentionally want to prevent you from getting to your desired outcomes, but they will try to discourage you from accomplishing your goals. Distance yourself from the naysayers who couldn’t achieve what you’re setting out to do.
Don’t let others keep you down. Don’t let their fears get in your way. Others may not be able to see what’s in store for your future. Only you get to make the final call. Only you can have the courage of your convictions to make something come to pass. Always believe you’re great even before anybody else does. This is the only way to become the best version of who you were meant to be.
Relational Intelligence: The Five Essential Skills You Need to Build Life-Changing Relationships is available everywhere books are sold.
Learn more about identifying, unlocking, and unleashing your authentic self at bandelliandassociates.com.
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